A Must Read!

A friend sent me a link to this blog post by an adoptive mother who is also a gifted author and speaker. The post is called "After the Airport." And if you're pondering adoption or preparing for your journey, you must read. However, it also speaks to women in all different types of challenging, devastating, or difficult situations.

We have been very blessed that both of our adopted daughters have had minor adoptive issues relative to what you can potentially deal with. Some children come home with reactive attachment disorder, some have sensory issues, some hardly know how to receive love at all without simultaneously pushing their new parents away. The best statement Jen Hatmaker writes in this post is you can't adopt just to adopt. You have to adopt knowing that you'll have a big parenting job to fulfill. Many adopted kids need to be psychologically reprogrammed, if you'll allow me to describe it that way. The glory of the "Gotcha Day" videos and the pictures of homecomings at airports often bring you chills, tears, and smiles of wonder and joy. But once the excitement dies down, challenges continue. And some days are really, really hard. After a year and a half, we still face some of Grace's abandonment fears! Jen writes of reality of adoption so well in this post. I am grateful she shared her heart.