6.11.2010

Update on Grace


On Wednesday, we visited Dr. Chambers at the International Adoption Clinic for the 6 week-post travel appointment. We were thankful to fear that all the tests for diseases/illnesses/complications etc., came back negative. The results from her bloodwork show that she is up to date on her immunizations, so no more shots. (At least for a few months until she turns 2.) Since the last appt, Grace gained 1 1/2 lbs! So she now weighs 21.5.

The attachment specialist was extremely pleased with Grace's bonding and adjustment. While we had a setback after returning home from the lake Memorial Day weekend, the specialist said this is very normal and could continue for months and even years to come. However, she said this should not discourage us from traveling or vacationing. We'll just need to anticipate the consequences once we get home.

The development specialist conducted some tests and exercises and was also very pleased. She told us that very few of the children they see are developmentally on target, or ahead of the curve for that matter. She said Grace is advanced and was likely blessed with a wonderful foster family who cared for, challenged, and stimulated her. She also appears to be very bright. (I remember thinking this on Gotcha Day when we got back to the hotel and she nested 7 stacking cups in order in less than 10 minutes. And in the condition of shock and grief!)

As we left the office, I was overjoyed at the positive reports. And the song that kept playing in my mind was "Mary, Did You Know?" I kept thinking to myself, did my daughter's birth mother know that the baby from her womb would be so strong? Did she know how beautiful she would be? Could she have sensed the intelligence her baby girl possesses? Would she ever have believed that one surgery would remove the invasive tumor from Grace's tongue forever and causes no problems?
In some ways, it pains me to think that Virginia Grace's birth parents will never know the talents, potential, beauty, and heart of the child they gave life to. Some days, I wish I could find them and assure them that their child is loved beyond measure. Some moments, this whole story seems so tragic and heartwrenching. Then I remember the lesson I learned from "Beauty Will Rise." Sacrifice and loss can birth beauty and joy. Each of our stories have not ended. They continue with hope. And I know God has written each day.

8 comments:

Brittany said...

Wow! Praise the Lord for your beautiful and intelligent daughter. She is simply an answered prayer from above.

I'm sure you will think of her birth mother many times throughout her life...however, the Lord has blessed her with such an amazing mother in America.

p.s. Is that a Kelly's Kids outfit? I have the boys matching ones with the anchor. How cute would all our kiddos look together?

Thanks for the update!! ;)

Kate Rhodes said...

hey there... my mom led me to your blog and i just love to read it. there is something about that little girl that just really gets to me and i have longed to adopt from China one day for a while now. anyway, i just wanted to let you know that even though i do not know you, i am very encouraged by your story. keep writing and sharing.

in Him,
kate

Bradford said...

We are so thankful that Grace is so healthy and doing soooo well. I often think the same thing about Ford's birth parents. Beautifully written entry. THank you for sharing your heart. Your Virginia Grace is absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!!! Can;t wait to meet her.

park it said...

I have been following your story - Grace is so precious! (my daughter's middle name...) any way - the going on vacation ...and coming back home etc - one thing that I have done since day one is tell K that "when we get back from (insert place here - the store - the neighbors-the school etc pick one) we will do XYZ - she is little now - but always using the same phrase helps - so for example - we are going to the grocery store - when we get home we will blow some bubbles in the back yard after we put the cold stuff away...yes a mouthful - BUT when you are out -remind - when we get home xyz...then do just that - so ehen you go on vacation - you use the same phrase - and have her tuck in a stuffed toy/doll etc - so "the baby doll" will be here when we get back from visiting xyz...

Works great for us! Even when we went back to China last yr on vacation - I did the same thing...

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Carol in FL

Unknown said...

So glad you had such a great doctor's visit. Grace certainly is a a child touched by His hand, what a blessing she is!

Natalie said...

Amazing as usual kelley! Always so inspiring and wonderfully written. Grace is one blessed little girl-especially to have u as her momms!!

JJ said...

Oh Kelley, SO TRUE!! We are ALL stories of redemption and adoption. Praise the Lord - He is so good. Grace is just precious and I really can't wait to see her soon.
Love you!
Joy
PS. I'm sorry that (I think) you still have my clothes...I hope they aren't causing too much trouble. :)

Annie said...

Such a blessing to hear how healthy she is! It sounds like she is continuing to make progress in attachment and that is awesome!